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很多人說遠距離是不可能的,只會白花心思。可是兩年多前的我偏偏就與Luk開始了遠距離戀愛,什至是我們在一起的一個星期後就開始了。加上了文化背景的不同,很多人都會大嚇一驚,說這是不可能的,我們的故事待大家有興趣時再分享吧!Luk早前已經分享過他對將會開始/正在發展遠距離戀愛的朋友的意見,現在就讓我說說我自己的意見吧!遠距離戀愛中的朋友加油!:)

1.  問清楚自己的意願♥♡
沒有人願意遠距離戀愛。它的發生必定有其他外在因素影響。當知道你知道要面對遠距離的時候,首先要問自己,自己可否做到,你是個忠誠的人嗎?若果連自己都不清楚自己的定力、耐性,或一心騎牛揾馬,為何你要浪費你的時間心機、對方的時間心機呢?

2. 一個認真的討論♥♡
戀愛是雙方的,遠距離更加需要雙方的承諾,及擁有一個共同的目標(我認為最好是以結婚為前提的關係)。你是否願意付出?對方是否願意付出?雙方100%的願意是非常重要,若果你是有猶豫,遠距離大概也不適合你了。遠距離是有限期的,一年?兩年?三年?目的地在哪?當一方因工作或其他原因較難離開,另一方是否願意放棄原有的工作、親友搬到一個陌生的地方呢?(當然不是一去不返的意思啦)
在討論的時候,雙方必須有一個共識才可以開始/繼續這段關係。當然隨著時間,最後不一定與當初的決定一樣,但我相信只要對方願意互相磨合,最終會去到一個大家理想的地方。

3. 一定要花時間聊天♥♡
由於身處的地域不同、時差,異地戀的戀人根本不可是隨時見面、隨時聊天。不過,Skype、Facetime、Facebook、Whatsapp、Wechat這些工具已經大大幫助了遠距離中的朋友,除了每天texting,我和Luk大約每個星期會Facetime一次,聊一下近況,計劃一下下一次的相聚。這是你們唯一能即時相見的機會,應該是最開心的時刻。幸好我們都不是喜歡每天聊電話的人,所以十分夾得來。而時差也只是小問題,距離我們有十四個小時時差,反正只要互相遷就,就會找到一個對的時間,一般在星期六日會較容易遷就對方的時間。
(不能相信以前有人只用書信來維持遠距離@@,,,)

4. 保持正面的心♥♡
當對方在世界的另一方,可能會擔心「他是在做什麼不可以讓我知道的呢?」、「為什麼這麼還不回我訊息?」,日積月累,這些擔心只會破壞你們關係。當然,對方也有責任事先交待要忙的事,避免另一方擔心。不過,當你們曾有過一個認真的討論,你們就要相信對方,亦要給對方安全感。若有問題,亦要第一時間把它說出來,切忌收收埋埋,想偏了。


5. 平等對待互相尊重♥♡
一段正常的關係是雙方平等的,沒有一個位置較好較低。如果是真心相愛,你永遠只會給對方最好,反之亦然。也不應將對方的愛視為理所當然,應該保持珍惜及感恩的心。不要吝嗇每一句「謝謝」、「我愛你」。

6.融入對方文化♥♡
如果你們是有著不一樣的文化,這就是一個好機會去學習喇!除了一些節日以外,平時的一些生活習慣也是啊!好像中國人習慣用碗筷吃東西,而且會用口切開食物,而西方就用刀叉,而且一定會用刀把食物切到剛好一口。

有一次,Luk爸在美國的中餐廳吃飯,用刀叉吃不再話下,Luk爸還把那小小的小籠包切一半才放進口裡!當我心想他很奇怪的時候,他大概也覺得我很粗魯吧XD,以後我還得想想吃飯的地方,然後用不同的習慣了!

7.給他/她一些心思驚喜♥♡
分隔異地,郵差叔叔就好像我們的鵲橋,把一些實體的東西傳遞給對方。平日我們的溝通只在於電腦、螢光幕,有時候也會感覺到挺悶的。不過,當你收到一些包裹,郵件的時候,恍惚會感覺到對方就在身邊一樣,在大時大節:生日、情人節、紀念日的時間更不少得。不過,突然送他/她一個小包裹,沒有原因,只想讓對方開心,也是一個很甜蜜的舉動啊!小提示:小包裹不一定很貴重,一些關於你的小東西、食物、相片、手作等,也可以令對方開心啊!

8. 分享你看過的,聽過的♥♡
就算異地戀也可以一起一同享受同樣事情啊!分享你最近喜歡的音樂、書本、運動、有趣的圖片、笑話,都可以讓對方產生共鳴。什至可以一起訂立目標,像每天要做60次Sit up 30分鐘運動,隨時問一下對方有沒有偷懶,也是小樂趣啊!有時間也可以一齊約好在家中看同一齣電影,雖然吃的不是同一包爆谷,但是就可以一起笑,一起緊張,之後也可以討論一下劇情呢!

9. 一起計劃♥♡
計劃無分大小,好像是什麼時間你們會見面,或者一齊旅行,這都是十分重要的。有著一個可以達到的時間表,大家感覺都會更實在。
長的計劃就是關於遠距離的結束,是你會到那邊,還是他會到你那邊的,這就要透過大家好好的溝通來決定了!


10. 努力經營♥♡
沒錯,其實說這麼多沒有你們倆的努力也是徒然,祝大家幸福啊!
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 BEE

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Bee and I have had an amazing long distance relationship for over 2 years. While we hope it won’t be long distance for long we have cherished what we have had.

It has been difficult at times but we have developed ways to make it work and stay close together despite being an ocean apart. So without further ado here is my Top 10 ways to make a long distance relationship work:
1.Have the right mate♥♡:
A long distance relationship is not for everyone. Some people simply cannot do it there is nothing wrong with that given its difficulty.
If considering one is it important to look at yourself and question if you will be able to do it. Luckily for me, Bee is someone who can handle a long distance relationship.

2.Have a Plan♥♡:
The plan can be big or small, it just needs to the two can look forward too. For Bee and me, it helped us to have something to look forward too.
For example, not a day goes by that we do not know when we will see each other next. So have a plan when to meet next, when to skype next and maybe if it is serious enough, when will you be able to move in together.

3.Skype♥♡:
Skype/Facetime is your most important tool to make a long distance relationship work. I believe it is important to skype at least once a week and more if possible. 
If that feels too much or tough to fit in your schedule consider short skype chats like 15-30 minutes. It will be important to see your boyfriend/girlfriend and make them feel closer to you.


4.Texting♥♡:
It is important to text your loved one daily to keep them informed about your life. You don’t need to discuss deep topics, even simple questions of “what you are eating” or “how is the weather” will suffice. It will help you feel close with your partner and good to keep each other in mind.

5. Pictures♥♡!
Bee will be quick to point out that I do not send enough pictures haha. I admit I don’t do enough and I should send more. Send pictures of meals, your home or anything interesting you come across in your life. This will give your partner a great visual of your life. Also don’t forget one of the most important pictures to send, Selfies! Those are the best.

6.Gift boxes♥♡:
One of my personal favorites to give, is a gift box to Bee. It can be especially good if it a surprise. I like to include things unique to your country or city, pictures, something handmade, candy and letters. These re a great way to surprise your significant other and give them something special.

7.Honesty♥♡:
Probable one of the most important ones on this list, honesty is critically important to make a long distance relationship work.  It is important to be honest for everything. Having true honesty will give your partner peace of mind and allow both of you to be more comfortable with the long distance relationship. 
Honesty means being able to ask any question, say anything and share anything. Having this is probable the single most important thing to make the relationship work.

8.Understanding♥♡:
I am very lucky to have Bee who is very understanding. Unfortunately with my job often I am not able to text her as much as I should or sometimes I get busy and won’t be able to skype as much as I like but she always understands. This is really important to me for her to understand that sometimes I am busy and can’t be as committed. I always try to make it up to her as she is so important to me!

9. Enjoy the little time you have♥♡:
I would tend to imagine all long distance couples, with a few exceptions, get to see their loved ones at least a few times a year, so make the most of it! The two of you don’t have much time together so enjoy it and savor it, as it won’t be long before you’re longing for each other again.

10. Keep it simple♥♡:

Don’t worry or get overwhelmed over the distance between you two. If it is worth it and you love each other enough it will be worth the wait and the relationship will work out. Enjoy the journey and if it wasn’t mean to be, it wasn’t meant to be. Having said that if the both of you put the time and effort in to make it work, it will. 
LUK

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洛杉磯拉斯維加斯七日六夜自由行行程分享:
Day 1:Malls>Sky Bus> Believe it or not Museum>Walk of Flame>Chinese Theatre>@Beverly Wilshire Beverly Hills 
Day 2:Universal Studio>@Beverly Wilshire Beverly Hills 
Day 3:6 hrs driving to Las Vegas>@Belligiao
Day 4:Buffet@Belligiao>Cassers>The Beatles Love>@Belligiao
Day 5:M&M Store>Coca-Cola Store>Zumity>@Belligiao
Day 6:參觀所有賭場>Zoo>@Belligiao

Day 7:Left

來到洛杉磯HOLLYWOOD,你唔係唔去Universal Studio呀麻?! 除了香港的海洋公園和迪迪尼,我沒有去過其他地方的主題園,相對香港的主題公園,洛杉磯的環球影城真的令我大大大大開眼界呀!環球影城地方大到呀媽都唔認得不再話下,裡面的機動遊戲、電影場地參觀都看得出它的利害!!!

Hollywood Universal Studio
  • 交通:我們是從酒店搭的士去的
  • 入場費:基本$95usd;Free Pass$189usd (這個可以在每個景點有一次不用排隊的機會。上午沒有很多人的時候不太有用,但到下午超多人的呢~可是真的貴很多:( 
    這個是live show - ♥♡Water world♥♡ 的場景,特技人員、火藥、水上電單車、驚險場面、搞笑場面應有盡有,一次難忘呀,推介指數五粒星裡面有十粒!!
♥♡budget許可的話可以買VIPPASS,因為看這些live show時就以坐指定的reserved seat,而所有機動遊戲都可以享有一次免排隊優先啊!對於時間不多的旅客來說是挺不錯的~
原來YOUTUBE都有片呢,除了這個live show 還有一個有貓狗、兔鳥、什至雞鴨的動物表演,實在是太cutecute了!

環球影城的遊戲有刺激型及老少咸宜型,刺激型的就有♥♡YUMMY♥及♡侏羅紀公園
老少咸宜的就有♥SIMSONS♥同♥TRANSFORMER喇,這兩個都是4D的遊戲,記得SIMSONS向我們噴口水,笑死啦!!哈哈哈!

最後一個必去點就是♥♡Studio Tour♥♡喇,坐上遊覽車,它會帶著我們參觀不同的真實電影場口,介紹不同電影裡面的特效,好像是大暴雨、狂風雷暴、殺人LUM樓,咩都有AR!!!
這是聖誕綠人跳舞
真係由本身正常的屋變到這樣的啊
又一次示範LUM樓
再LUM過 多謝
電影入面的大白鯊食人呀(先生,你上鏡比較靚仔喎,真人咁膠GE)
B........

Boom!!
洛杉磯的旅程三天就完了,接下來的就是去世界級賭城-拉斯維加斯
喜歡我的分享的話,請到九十後•蜂旅日記The Bee Diary FB給我一個LIKE吧!謝謝!BEE

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