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Since Bee and I grew up in vastly different cultures and in different parts of the world, there are many things from our childhood that the other wasn't able to experience. After developing a relationship I learned many  of the great Western style activities as a child I experienced that Bee hasn't been able too. I have compiled a list of the top 10 memories of my Childhood that Bee hasn't experienced that I would love to share with her! I hope that we can share them soon or perhaps someday with Kids of our own!

 

Top 5 Western Childhood memories:

 

1. Christmas:

 

-Okay not a surprising choice and also something that is generally celebrated around the world.But nothing is quite like Christmas in Canada. The snow, hot chocolate, the familytogether at home by the fire, makes for a pretty magical movie like experience. Not to mention the adrenaline toy rush feeling as a kid, haha.


The ginger bread house we made last Christmas!(joy for fun, taste bad to eat)

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很多人說遠距離是不可能的,只會白花心思。可是兩年多前的我偏偏就與Luk開始了遠距離戀愛,什至是我們在一起的一個星期後就開始了。加上了文化背景的不同,很多人都會大嚇一驚,說這是不可能的,我們的故事待大家有興趣時再分享吧!Luk早前已經分享過他對將會開始/正在發展遠距離戀愛的朋友的意見,現在就讓我說說我自己的意見吧!遠距離戀愛中的朋友加油!:)

1.  問清楚自己的意願♥♡
沒有人願意遠距離戀愛。它的發生必定有其他外在因素影響。當知道你知道要面對遠距離的時候,首先要問自己,自己可否做到,你是個忠誠的人嗎?若果連自己都不清楚自己的定力、耐性,或一心騎牛揾馬,為何你要浪費你的時間心機、對方的時間心機呢?

2. 一個認真的討論♥♡
戀愛是雙方的,遠距離更加需要雙方的承諾,及擁有一個共同的目標(我認為最好是以結婚為前提的關係)。你是否願意付出?對方是否願意付出?雙方100%的願意是非常重要,若果你是有猶豫,遠距離大概也不適合你了。遠距離是有限期的,一年?兩年?三年?目的地在哪?當一方因工作或其他原因較難離開,另一方是否願意放棄原有的工作、親友搬到一個陌生的地方呢?(當然不是一去不返的意思啦)
在討論的時候,雙方必須有一個共識才可以開始/繼續這段關係。當然隨著時間,最後不一定與當初的決定一樣,但我相信只要對方願意互相磨合,最終會去到一個大家理想的地方。

3. 一定要花時間聊天♥♡
由於身處的地域不同、時差,異地戀的戀人根本不可是隨時見面、隨時聊天。不過,Skype、Facetime、Facebook、Whatsapp、Wechat這些工具已經大大幫助了遠距離中的朋友,除了每天texting,我和Luk大約每個星期會Facetime一次,聊一下近況,計劃一下下一次的相聚。這是你們唯一能即時相見的機會,應該是最開心的時刻。幸好我們都不是喜歡每天聊電話的人,所以十分夾得來。而時差也只是小問題,距離我們有十四個小時時差,反正只要互相遷就,就會找到一個對的時間,一般在星期六日會較容易遷就對方的時間。
(不能相信以前有人只用書信來維持遠距離@@,,,)

4. 保持正面的心♥♡
當對方在世界的另一方,可能會擔心「他是在做什麼不可以讓我知道的呢?」、「為什麼這麼還不回我訊息?」,日積月累,這些擔心只會破壞你們關係。當然,對方也有責任事先交待要忙的事,避免另一方擔心。不過,當你們曾有過一個認真的討論,你們就要相信對方,亦要給對方安全感。若有問題,亦要第一時間把它說出來,切忌收收埋埋,想偏了。


5. 平等對待互相尊重♥♡
一段正常的關係是雙方平等的,沒有一個位置較好較低。如果是真心相愛,你永遠只會給對方最好,反之亦然。也不應將對方的愛視為理所當然,應該保持珍惜及感恩的心。不要吝嗇每一句「謝謝」、「我愛你」。

6.融入對方文化♥♡
如果你們是有著不一樣的文化,這就是一個好機會去學習喇!除了一些節日以外,平時的一些生活習慣也是啊!好像中國人習慣用碗筷吃東西,而且會用口切開食物,而西方就用刀叉,而且一定會用刀把食物切到剛好一口。

有一次,Luk爸在美國的中餐廳吃飯,用刀叉吃不再話下,Luk爸還把那小小的小籠包切一半才放進口裡!當我心想他很奇怪的時候,他大概也覺得我很粗魯吧XD,以後我還得想想吃飯的地方,然後用不同的習慣了!

7.給他/她一些心思驚喜♥♡
分隔異地,郵差叔叔就好像我們的鵲橋,把一些實體的東西傳遞給對方。平日我們的溝通只在於電腦、螢光幕,有時候也會感覺到挺悶的。不過,當你收到一些包裹,郵件的時候,恍惚會感覺到對方就在身邊一樣,在大時大節:生日、情人節、紀念日的時間更不少得。不過,突然送他/她一個小包裹,沒有原因,只想讓對方開心,也是一個很甜蜜的舉動啊!小提示:小包裹不一定很貴重,一些關於你的小東西、食物、相片、手作等,也可以令對方開心啊!

8. 分享你看過的,聽過的♥♡
就算異地戀也可以一起一同享受同樣事情啊!分享你最近喜歡的音樂、書本、運動、有趣的圖片、笑話,都可以讓對方產生共鳴。什至可以一起訂立目標,像每天要做60次Sit up 30分鐘運動,隨時問一下對方有沒有偷懶,也是小樂趣啊!有時間也可以一齊約好在家中看同一齣電影,雖然吃的不是同一包爆谷,但是就可以一起笑,一起緊張,之後也可以討論一下劇情呢!

9. 一起計劃♥♡
計劃無分大小,好像是什麼時間你們會見面,或者一齊旅行,這都是十分重要的。有著一個可以達到的時間表,大家感覺都會更實在。
長的計劃就是關於遠距離的結束,是你會到那邊,還是他會到你那邊的,這就要透過大家好好的溝通來決定了!


10. 努力經營♥♡
沒錯,其實說這麼多沒有你們倆的努力也是徒然,祝大家幸福啊!
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 BEE

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Bee and I have had an amazing long distance relationship for over 2 years. While we hope it won’t be long distance for long we have cherished what we have had.

It has been difficult at times but we have developed ways to make it work and stay close together despite being an ocean apart. So without further ado here is my Top 10 ways to make a long distance relationship work:
1.Have the right mate♥♡:
A long distance relationship is not for everyone. Some people simply cannot do it there is nothing wrong with that given its difficulty.
If considering one is it important to look at yourself and question if you will be able to do it. Luckily for me, Bee is someone who can handle a long distance relationship.

2.Have a Plan♥♡:
The plan can be big or small, it just needs to the two can look forward too. For Bee and me, it helped us to have something to look forward too.
For example, not a day goes by that we do not know when we will see each other next. So have a plan when to meet next, when to skype next and maybe if it is serious enough, when will you be able to move in together.

3.Skype♥♡:
Skype/Facetime is your most important tool to make a long distance relationship work. I believe it is important to skype at least once a week and more if possible. 
If that feels too much or tough to fit in your schedule consider short skype chats like 15-30 minutes. It will be important to see your boyfriend/girlfriend and make them feel closer to you.


4.Texting♥♡:
It is important to text your loved one daily to keep them informed about your life. You don’t need to discuss deep topics, even simple questions of “what you are eating” or “how is the weather” will suffice. It will help you feel close with your partner and good to keep each other in mind.

5. Pictures♥♡!
Bee will be quick to point out that I do not send enough pictures haha. I admit I don’t do enough and I should send more. Send pictures of meals, your home or anything interesting you come across in your life. This will give your partner a great visual of your life. Also don’t forget one of the most important pictures to send, Selfies! Those are the best.

6.Gift boxes♥♡:
One of my personal favorites to give, is a gift box to Bee. It can be especially good if it a surprise. I like to include things unique to your country or city, pictures, something handmade, candy and letters. These re a great way to surprise your significant other and give them something special.

7.Honesty♥♡:
Probable one of the most important ones on this list, honesty is critically important to make a long distance relationship work.  It is important to be honest for everything. Having true honesty will give your partner peace of mind and allow both of you to be more comfortable with the long distance relationship. 
Honesty means being able to ask any question, say anything and share anything. Having this is probable the single most important thing to make the relationship work.

8.Understanding♥♡:
I am very lucky to have Bee who is very understanding. Unfortunately with my job often I am not able to text her as much as I should or sometimes I get busy and won’t be able to skype as much as I like but she always understands. This is really important to me for her to understand that sometimes I am busy and can’t be as committed. I always try to make it up to her as she is so important to me!

9. Enjoy the little time you have♥♡:
I would tend to imagine all long distance couples, with a few exceptions, get to see their loved ones at least a few times a year, so make the most of it! The two of you don’t have much time together so enjoy it and savor it, as it won’t be long before you’re longing for each other again.

10. Keep it simple♥♡:

Don’t worry or get overwhelmed over the distance between you two. If it is worth it and you love each other enough it will be worth the wait and the relationship will work out. Enjoy the journey and if it wasn’t mean to be, it wasn’t meant to be. Having said that if the both of you put the time and effort in to make it work, it will. 
LUK

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Hello everyone! It has been awhile since I posted something so it is about time I shared something. This topic is of special request from Bee, the topic is everything there is to know about Western College Parties (note I use college and university interchangeable). While she didn’t get to participate in any while she was in Hong Kong, I did while going to university in North America. So to share my experiences of western college parties and feed Bee’s curiosity below is everything you need to know about the party life.
The first thing that needs to be said, is that college parties are not like the movies. Sure the premise is similar but they are WAY toned down. There is not limitless drinks, headliner bands (See old School, it’s a great movie), gorgeous girls and muscular guys. Nonetheless they can be a great time.
The central aspect to these parties is of course drinks! Now for my Chinese friends we typically won’t drink Baijiu, surprise, surprise.

+Drinks!+
Below are many of the main drinks you will find at a part.

1)      Beer:

an obvious choice that I am sure many of you would have guessed. My personal favorites are the Samuel Adams seasons brews and a good Asian beer (TsingTao or Chang). Unfortunately, most of these college parties are on a college budget. Meaning you will likely be drinking Keystone, Busch Light or if you’re lucky bud light.

2)      Jungle Juice:


This is a mixed drink where by the party host , usually a frat house, will mix alcohol, juice and fruit into a cooler making some sort of concoction  that will be sure to get more than a few drunk and drunk fast. To be honest it actually doesn’t taste that good but it is a cheap drink and easy to get drunk on. My personal recipe recommendation includes 1 bottle of Smirnoff Ice, 1 bottle of Hawaiian punch, 1 2L of ginger ale and add some sliced oranges from the school cafeteria if you can get them for free. Of course double the ingredients to make a larger batch!

3)      Mixed drinks:
Now there is a reason I didn’t call these cocktails, they do not call for a slice of lemon peel or a fancy liqueur to add flavor. These are the bare bone mixers, I am talking bourbon and coke if it is a good drink, cheap vodka and Gatorade if it is a bad one.  While there are not bad and a good alternative to beer if you do not want to feel bloated, take it easy on the sugary mixers. They will make your hangover ten times worse.

4)      Box Wine:
A classic favorite for sorority girls, box “wine” makes the part seem a little bit classier while not being so at all. As much as I would not like to admit it actually doesn’t taste too bad. Good to try but best to avoid unless you are a girl with her friends. The one night I did have it gave me one of the worst hangovers of my life. Plus as a guy it is kind of a sissy drink.
Now enough about drinks let’s get down to some of the types of parties on that you will find in a Western college. While there are so many to talk about, I will condense a list and try to highlight some of the main ones.
+Party Types!+
· The College sponsored ones:
 These are most frequent in freshman year (1st year) and absolutely cringe worthy. Usually these parties do not have alcohol as everyone is usually underage so they get people out by giving away free school merchandise. Given that there are no drinks, besides the few that were able to booze within their soda bottle, it can get boring real fast. Furthermore, given that it is usually freshmen that attend these it usually pretty awkward with little mingling. 

· The casual dorm party: 
So you, our small group of friends and a few people from across the hall decided to have a few drinks in your dorm room, this is the casual dorm party. A great time to hang-out with the bros or catch some solid facetime with the cute co-ed. Often these parties will be centered around a game of beer pong or flip cup. (see part 2 of 2, for party games coming next week).   

· The intense dorm party: 
Okay so now your friends have called some of their friends and this casual dorm party just got a bit louder. Nobody is dancing yet, but everyone is having a great time and are 4-5 drinks deep. It is likely this party is no long just in your dorm but also the four adjacent rooms and even then it is too tight to move freely.  You will be lucky to not have one beer spilt on you.

· The Senior run “awesome” party:
 These are the kind of parties you loved going to I your first few years and organized in your last, they are particularly frequent in the last few weeks before summer, allowing the seniors to party off their final weeks of college life. Usually these have some sort of special aspect to them, either jungle juice is provided, a sports team victory party or a large game is played such as beer Olympics or gin buckets. 

· Theme parties:
These parties are often similar to the senior parties but with a special and depending which one can be a lot of fun. One of my personal favorites is a “Round the World” party. This is where a group of friends host the party across several rooms, where each room serves alcohol from a different country. Such as the Mexico room has tequila, Russia room has Vodka, Italy room has wine, etc. Other great themed parties include, 80s style, animal, wear anything but clothes, toga and neon clothes. 

· The Ragers: 
The final and last party type I am writing about and I have saved the best for last. This is usually the last party of the night and you have had a bit to drink so you are not too sure how you got there. This is the one where the jungle juice is flowing, the floor is too sticky from the spilt drinks, the music is too loud to think but you are having a great time. These parties always include dancing and if you are lucky you might find a cute dance or dance with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Although you might wake up in the morning with a bad headache or some regrets, there is no denying you had an epic time.
While that is all for this post, check in again later this week for part 2! Part two will include a description of the best western part games, top tips for attending a western party, plus much more!

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Since Bee and I grew up in vastly different cultures and in different parts of the world, there are many things from our childhood that the other wasn't able to experience. 
After developing a relationship I learned many  of the great Western style activities as a child I experienced that Bee hasn't been able too. I have compiled a list of the top 10 memories of my Childhood that Bee hasn't experienced that I would love to share with her! I hope that we can share them soon or perhaps someday with Kids of our own!
Top 10 Western Childhood memories:

1. +Christmas+:
-Okay not a surprising choice and also something that is generally celebrated around the world. But nothing is quite like Christmas in Canada. The snow, hot chocolate, the family together at home by the fire, makes for a pretty magical movie like experience. Not to mention the adrenaline toy rush feeling as a kid, haha.
The ginger bread house we made last Christmas!(joy for fun, taste bad to eat)
2. Trick or Treating, Halloween:
-Always my second favorite holiday, trick or treating was always a thrill as a kid. It was exciting to get free candy from your neighbors all while competing with friends on you can fill their pill case with the most chocolate.  
Only downside is the frozen hands from carrying the heavy bag during the cold October night. 

3. Summertime Boating and BBQ:
-Hot dogs, steak and baked potato.....yum! Plus tubing (being pulled by a speed boat while in an inflatable tube) at the family cottage, was a lot of fun. 
Even though you were scared of falling off the tube but didn't want to show in front of the cousins. 

4. LaserTag/Paintball:
-I loved LaserTag as a kid and still do. Which later progressed to a love for paintball once my mother allowed me to play. I have actually gotten to play LaserTag with Bee, when she came to visit last December. We had so much although she killed me too much. I have a feeling paintball might be a lot harder to get her to play. 


5. Calgary Stampede:
-A big tradition here in Calgary, Stampede was always a highlight of my youth. It really kicked off the summer as the first big event after school was finished for the summer. I always loved the Rodeo and riding the horses among the western syle activities. Another favorite was the food! Deep fried Oreos, dip-n-dots ice cream and mini donuts, Yum!

6. Fishing:
- Okay I have a feeling this is likely something Bee would not like, haha but still a great memory is fishing with my father and friends. The satisfaction of catching a big trout was amazing for me and something great to experience. Canada has some of the best fishing in the world. I would recommend Salmon fishing on the west coast as a good spot. Trout fishing in Alberta is good too.

7. Camping:
-Speaking of summer camping was always something exciting to do. Although I didn’t go much the few times I did was always a blast. Setting up a tent, eating camp fire food, nature walks and having 100% family time was something always special. Not having a shower is a big downside though.

8. Rainy days and board games:
-A Western staple during a rainy day is to play board games. A family favorite was always Monopoly. It was fun to have the family together playing. I loved playing and especially winning, haha. As a kid I think my parents let me win but I will pretend that as a kid I was that smart to win every time.

9. Childhood Sport teams:
-This one will be tough to share with Bee but maybe someday with a kid of our own. I loved playing hockey as a kid, I also played basketball and soccer. It was exciting to play with a big group of friends, and compete in games. It was also special to have my family watch and cheer me on. The best part was the after-game stops for Pizza!  

10. Golf:
-Last but certainly not least, I loved golf as a kid. I loved to play the game with my father and friends as a kid and I still do today. I continue to golf and played for my college team. This is something I got to do with Bee too. I think she enjoyed it although maybe does not like to play as much as I haha. Nonetheless I hope Bee is still willing to play with me some.

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一個出生於平凡家庭的BEE,但求三餐有飯食,有TBB睇。

可是,2013年小蜂子與來自與加拿大的LUK展開了一段可歌可泣的愛情故事,精彩的故事就由此開始了。。。

a long distance and cross cultural relationship with Canadian Luk colored Bee's life, that was how the story began....

 

小妹初來報到,跟大家打聲招呼

 

希望日後可以在這裡跟大家多分享交流,認識認識 ^V^

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